How a Change in Coaching Changed My Perspective

A little over six months ago, right after I completed my second winter show program, my coach came to me with some news. She was moving to Colorado in a week (her husband had a new job) and unless I was also moving to Colorado (spoilers: I wasn’t), I would need to get a new coach. It was a little bit of a shock at first as she was the only I had ever had since I picked up skating seriously two years ago, and I was nervous that someone new wouldn’t be a good fit.

My coach did everything she could to make the transition of her leaving as smooth as possible for me and all of her other students. She talked to other coaches at the rink and found one who she thought would fit my goals as an adult skater (competing as well as moves in the field tests) and was willing to take me on. Two weeks after my former coach left for Colorado, I started with my new coach.

The moment you start working with someone new, everything you were working on with someone else is immediately put under scrutiny. My new coach knew who I was, had seen me at the rink, but she didn’t know my skating abilities. We went through the basics (forward and backward crossovers, edges, stroking, etc.) all the way through the new skills I had been working on (loop jumps and backspins), and then she evaluated and determined how we would move forward.

Her assessment wasn’t one that I liked or wanted to hear. To start, we weren’t going to compete this year, even though I had a program ready to go and that had been the plan with my former coach. Instead, we were going to call this season a rebuild. We were going to start over on some things like two-foot spins and one-foot spins, and we were going to correct skills that I had somehow learned bad habits on over my time skating (like dropping my foot after the three-turn before a Salchow).

For one of my first lessons, we worked on waltz jumps, but not the jump itself. We went back to the very beginning and spent almost the entire lesson working on how to glide and jump off the toe pick from the right edge. Another lesson, we worked on backward crossovers and focused specifically on me sitting further back on my heels when completing the motion. Another lesson we spent what felt like the entire lesson working solely on the three turn entrance to my Salchow. Nit-picking and nit-picking at all of my skating techniques were how so many of my early lessons with my new coach went. We broke down almost every skating skill I had learned into the small components that make them up in order to fix a part of them. It was tedious. There were moments where I felt like I was going backward and it was frustrating.

But, I didn’t give up. No matter how frustrating getting the criticism was, I kept working. I practiced harder and on more specific things like my new coach had shown me, and finally, I’m seeing that it’s worth it.

Having that new coaching perspective on my skating really allowed me to grow as a skater in ways that I wasn’t sure I would ever reach. I’ve become a stronger and faster skater and I feel more confident when I take the ice. My jumps are higher. And I’m finally able to do a scratch spin, which I was convinced would never happen.

I had forgotten what it was like to have to work on skills until I could do them in my sleep. I had become so accustomed to learning a new skill and then quickly moving to learn another. This isn’t to say that my former coach was a bad one. Quite the opposite in fact. She was amazing and just what I needed when I started skating. I’m still sad that I don’t get to work with her. But, my new coach brings something to the table that pushes me further. Something I hadn’t realized I needed until I was forced into the change.

Sometimes what’s easy and comfortable isn’t always what you need to succeed. Sometimes you need someone to point out every single mistake you make because it only makes you better when you come out the other side. Sometimes you have to learn that starting over doesn’t mean failure, it’s just a change in perspective on what success means.  That’s what I learned from this experience, and what I continue to learn every time I have a lesson with my new coach and she points out something I’m doing wrong on a skill that I’ve been doing for the last two years.

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Becky Blizard (or Becky Mezz as she is often called) cannot be defined in any sort of neatly packaged way. Becky is a beauty pageant contestant turned ballerina turned musician turned actor turned filmmaker/photographer turned adult figure skater and hockey player. A Baltimore native, she has lived in Prague, the Czech Republic, Cairo, Egypt and Washington, DC. In her free time, Becky can be found obsessing over Korean and British TV shows, learning new jumps on the ice, or yelling at a hockey game like a disappointed mother. Follow her on Instagram (@asdirectedbybecky) or Twitter (@DirectedByBecky).

This Post Has 4 Comments

  1. I haven’t changed coaches but I’ve worked with several of them in my time skating. I really like hearing different perspectives even if it’s what I don’t want to hear! I’m totally with you, it can be a super humbling yet frustrating experience. Best of luck with your new coach!!

    1. Directed By Bex

      Thanks! It’s super cool that you’ve worked with a few different coaches. But yeah, it took a little bit to realize that everything my new coach saying was designed to make me better.

  2. LeRoEv

    I am going through this right now as well. The frustration is real. I am happy to hear it has been worth it. I left my most recent lesson filled with so much doubt and frustration. But woke the next day ready try my hardest, I hope to show improvement by my next lesson.

    1. Directed By Bex

      It really has. It’s been six months with my new coach and there are still moments in time where I find myself being frustrated at something that I feel like I’ve been learning and practicing forever.

      I’m glad that you get back up and get out there despite the frustrations. It’s really important to just keep going! Best of luck of your skating path!

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